Crikey,
I might imagine that working Soc, but I'd wake up next day to find my softer bits on the pillow next to me I think. My wife is already fairly good at spotting and responding to the frosty replies by clearing off, and if asked would concede I am a bit of a hedgehog - approach with caution, prickly when disturbed. The point is taken, but I figure I have to meet her halfway - as I mentioned earlier when I'm aware things might interfere I simply stay out. Imperfect yes, I think a sign up to suggest I'm busy might well be a suitable compromise between divorce and quitting. It's really not a case of training, but education - I'm working on getting her to stop talking just for the heck of it.
After all, retirement will be completely intolerable when it occurs if I have to answer stupid damn questions all day long. 'Are my keys in the back door' I asked, 'which keys' came the reply - how the **** my car keys would end up in a door instead of my house keys I'm still trying to work out. To continue my 'Les Dawson routine' (sorry, but I'm in that sort of mood) why do they always say things like 'oooh you shouldn't have done that, I bet that hurt' when you have an accident?
'Answer the phone' - I'm one up on you there... I let it ring until either somebody else answers or the answerphone picks it up, I don't care who it is or why they are phoning - they obviously want something from me, let them figure out how to attract my attention.[/QUOTE
]Dave, men and women percieve things differently. What I am saying that that you may be saying one thing and she is understanding another, don't laugh. It can be very serious, and very detrimental to your trading. You have to deal with it, but as I explained to FX it is no use you trying to deal with it according to your frame of reference, because it is not hers. You must deal with it according to HER frame of reference, and not YOURS. Only then does it land and remain LANDED.
There is no question of compromise, of meetings half way. YOU are in charge of your trading.YOU have the ultimate responsibility for pressing buttons and managing positions.
YOU have to be allowed to DISCHRGE THAT VERY HEAVY RESPONSIBILITY CORRECTLY.
You have to ensure that this is the NORM and not the EXCEPTION.
Therefore, you have to put in place the CORRECT PROTOCOLS to absolutely ENSURE that you can ALWAYS be guaranteed that your space is respected when you are in front of a screen, whether you are running a position or not, that is the point I make, ignore it at your peril, because you need to put YOUR FULL ATTENTION on what it is you are doing and are responsible for, without having to battle for not being interrupted, do you see ?
You must not "imagine" that working, you have to make it a PRACTICAL REALITY instead.