Ok, I've spoken with my father about the guy at work, what shall we call him, the incessant joker. Yep, there's an instance of this usage on google:
The Incessant Joker — The 10 Types of People in Email Threads | Complex
One of the reasons why email threads are insufferable, the Incessant Joker always finds a way to inject his or her weird sense of humor into the chain of messages. Though it rarely disrupts anything, it's still annoying.
Which is what this guy is to me: annoying.
He called me for an entire month every day "steve jobs" because I helped him out with his computer. Very annoying. I didn't like it at all, from day one. I made him stop. So far so good. Now I need to make him stop joking all the time. Since I am obsessive, now I am thinking about this problem day and night, just like I did with vito the chimp, with the idiot with the ratio (the guy from the union, who later helped me keep my position at this office), and all the other monkeys at work.
Overall, along the years, my methodology of "my way or no relationship" has been successful in establishing respect and seriousness.
My message to my colleagues is this: I will always help you, but if you disrespect me, then you cannot have a relationship outside of work with me. In other words, with those who disrespect me, when they ask me how I am, I reply "fine, and you?", which means "get lost, I won't tell you anything about myself".
For me disrespect means this such as: putting your hand on my shoulder, telling me how I should spend the weekend, and now this new category of "incessant joking". I don't care if this guy is from Tuscany and he thinks he has to be like Roberto Benigni. I don't care that it's his way of being normally.
If he has to joke incessantly, he can find other people as "friends". Go spend time with other idiots like you.
My father instead said that I should not use as a weapon my concept of "no relationship" and avoiding people. He said that establishing a relationship of "respect with affection" is much better than a relationship of "respect with fear". And he said that, with my methods, I will achieve the second one.
I don't know about my father either, because he's such a psychopath, too, but in a different way than I am. But I care very much about his opinion, because if I can see a problem from my point of view and his point of view, and other people's points of view, then I can assess the problem better.
And this is what the incessant joker has become for me: the problem of the moment. I am now focusing every day, and every hour, at least for a few minutes, on this animal.
Let's assess him further:
IQ: below 120 for sure. This guy is stupid. Yet he jokes, and as a consequence his jokes are stupid.
Meanness: below average. He's not mean.
Persistence: above average. His stupidity increases his persistence of behaviors, so that it took me a month to get through his stupid head that I didn't want to be called anything buy my name. He's not sensitive to outside stimuli. At the same time, I am very persistent, too, and yet I am not stupid. It's because I choose to ignore stimuli from other humans, which I qualify as idiots for the most part.
Physical: above 50, yet no white hair, very tall, very short haircut, average weight, pretty good shape.
In many ways I feel sorry for him. First of all, because he's stupid, second of all, because he's been given a stupid job... ok, basically the last thing I would want to do is say something to humble this guy, and yet this is the biggest problem I have, because I have no weapons to fight against him. He bothers me, he jokes incessantly, calling me "steve jobs"... and I can't stop him, because I feel sorry by how stupid he is, by the fact that he was given menial work to do, by the fact that I owe him respect for his older age. Other than this, he's an idiot, he harasses me with his incessant joking and I would like to make him disappear.
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I was thinking this. In the end, whether it was vito the chimp or the idiot with the radio, whom I've discussed for years on this journal (cfr. previous journals), I managed to get their respect, and now vito is not bothering me any more, and the guy with the radio is using earphones.
So basically, in time, one by one, I've managed so far to educate all the monkeys that have been placed around me in the office.
So, my intent is to succeed with this guy, too. But this is a new problem, a new person, who might be less annoying than vito, definitely, but he's also dumber, so I don't know how it will all turn out. He's also about 30 years older than vito was. So that will guarantee less energy to bust my balls. That's just a fact of life. As we grow older we have less energy, and aren't as restless.
The problem, however, is that the little energy this guy has, he uses it all to joke incessantly. Damn. No wonder he doesn't amount to anything as far as his working ability.
I think I have the power to change the place I work at. I have so far learned to have a relationship with every single person at work, even those I avoid, because if they need help, I'll help them. At any rate, even avoiding people is still a way to relate to them, so it is a relationship.
By being patient, and going the distance with all these idiots, by not giving ultimatums such as "stop this or else", by obsessing about them at home, trying to find a way to change them without anger and with intelligence and reasoning... I am making a difference. I have conquered a leadership at the office, whereby if we go to lunch, I decide what time to go, where to sit, when to leave... not that I care about being the leader, it's just that I won't have it any other way. So they can go and leave any time they want, but I won't follow them, I'd rather be alone than not be in control. So, as a consequence, anyone having a relationship with me, is forced sooner or later to let me have my way, and... although right now I am here worrying about this incessant joker, in the end my estimate is that I'll defeat him, and that he'll behave exactly as I want him to behave. I am training and educating these monkeys, that's my job.
Astrud Gilberto - Manha De Carnabal - YouTube
It is my job, and yet, while I am doing it, it feels unpleasant, it's an ordeal, it's a nightmare, an obsession, it is something I would like to not do, and yet, given that new monkey is here, I have to train him. I can't help it.
