Curing my trading addiction with movies and other addictions/interests
I can't keep on looking forward to trading.
I need to find anything, maybe even other addictions, to keep busy all the time. Because if I smoke, it ruins my lungs, but if I trade when I am bored or frustrated, I will blow out my account, which is worse than smoking.
If I can get rid of the enjoyment I get from trading, if I can stop looking forward to trading and start doing it ONLY to increase my capital, all my problems will be solved, because I am positive that I already have an edge. I have no doubts about it.
All I must do is stop seeing trading as a source of pleasure. I must stop mixing work and pleasure.
Trading from now must only be a means to increasing my bank account. No pleasure must come out of trading that is similar to a pleasure that comes from playing videogames.
I must find entertainment in other activities: watching movies, if I can't find anything better.
Maybe I'll write my movie reviews in here. I must stop looking forward to mondays in order to resume my trading. I am totally addicted to trading right now, and that causes overtrading, and overtrading is gambling and gambling means losing money.
I must not look at trading as a source of pleasure.
These questions (that were taken from trading psychology web sites) and the answers I gave in my previous posts clearly indicate that this has been my problem so far...
from my earlier post here:
http://www.trade2win.com/boards/trading-journals/72598-my-journal-177.html#post1013312
Addictive Trading: Getting Your Life Back
My
recent post on out-of-control trading brought many email inquiries and insightful comments on the blog. One of the common questions voiced was: How can you tell when a trader is passionate about trading vs. addicted to it?
The first step in dealing with any addictive pattern is identifying it--and identifying it as a problem. Here are a few questions that you might ask yourself:
* Have there been times when I told myself to stop trading, but still found myself placing trades any way?
YES
* Do I find myself overtrading by putting on positions with too large size or by trading during periods when nothing is happening?
YES
* Have my trading losses created problems for me in my relationship(s), or have they caused financial problems for me?
YES
* Have people close to me told me that I need to stop trading?
YES
* Is the pain from losing more extreme than the satisfaction from winning?
YES
* Do I find my moods fluctuating with my P/L?
YES, also a colleague has told me so.
* Do I trade simply out of boredom sometimes?
YES
* Do I find myself preoccupied with trading outside of market hours at the cost of other work and relationships?
YES, all relationships have been eliminated.
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From the other post, here:
http://www.trade2win.com/boards/trading-journals/72598-my-journal-178.html#post1013324
Online-Trading Addiction: the Warning Signs
DO YOU KNOW someone who can't stop trading stocks online...
[...]
...It becomes a problem only when people are unable to stop day trading even when they're on a long losing streak.
YES, 12 YEARS LONG. Another red flag is when trading stocks becomes a game — an end in itself rather than a vehicle to earn a living or build a retirement nest egg.
RIGHT, IT WAS A GAME AND I DIDN'T BUILD ANYTHING.
The following are the warning signs of a possible online-trading addiction:
· You're a thrill seeker and enjoy the challenge of trading as much as — and maybe even more than — making money.
YES.
· You're a big risk-taker, willing to gamble large sums of money on a few stocks.
YES.
· You invest heavily on margin and are probably overextended on other credit lines.
YES, HAVE BEEN IN THE PAST.
· You have unrealistic expectations about a stock's prospects for increasing in value and the general direction of the market.
YES, I HAVE HAD DELUSIONAL PLANS OF MAKING 100% A MONTH FOR THE PAST 12 YEARS.
· Family members and friends express concern about your trading.
I WOULDN'T KNOW BECAUSE I AVOID THEM.
· You try to erase your losses by taking bigger risks.
YES, THE MARTINGALE APPROACH - HAVE SPOKEN ABOUT IT FOR THE LAST 50 POSTS.
What's pushed me to trade all these years was my trading addiction. For a number of reasons, that I probably cannot identify, I wasn't just trading to increase my account, but because I got a lot more out of it.
Now this must stop. In the process, in the bad gambling process, I have learned plenty about trading, but now the process of obsessing about it, to the gambling extent, to the extent of being addicted to it, must stop. Because I've learned enough about it to be profitable, and because the addiction and obsessing itself interferes with the process of making money, which is the reason I approached trading in the first place.
Now this addiction can be substituted by plenty of things, many of which I eliminated in the past, and removed from my life, such as:
1) girlfriends
2) friends
3) reading
4) watching tv
5) watching movies
6) sports
7) walking around
I know I won't resume any of these activities, and that's part of my problem and part of my quality as well (because it allows me to focus on things and get things done). I know I won't resume with girlfriends because they require money, and I don't feel I want to waste any. Also friends require money, so forget the first two.
Reading is practically free. So I must resume reading. Maybe wprins would be pleased to know that I was addicted to reading once, a long time ago. For just two years though. I read over a hundred books. There was a year when I was reading more than one book per week. I was just reading all the time. Also, movies, I will resume.
All dangerous things, but that do not hurt my account. I mean: if I do get addicted to reading and movies again, 2 decades may go by before I wake up from it. I am warning wprins as well: he may have a reading addiction, too.
As funny as it may sound, it's just as bad as other addictions.
Anyway, let me requote those 7 activities/addictions and I'll mark in dark red and bold the ones I can resume, mostly depending on the fact that they do not cost money:
1) girlfriends
2) friends
3) reading
4) watching tv
5) watching movies
6) sports
7) walking around
The eighth one is writing. I have never stopped, but I'll keep on doing it, right here. I've got my hands full with these potential addictions/interests/activities.
I will definitely recover from my trading addiction. Especially now that I feel I do not need to focus on it in order to get better: in other words now I
can allow myself to not be addicted to trading, because being addicted to trading was also a means to get better at it, because I did get better all the while my accounts were being blown out.
Is
activity a synonim for
addiction?
One, and even I, could object: why do you keep on using "activity" and "interest" as a synonim for "addiction"? Because the difference is very very slight. Even a very healthy individual, or what society calls a "healthy" individual (which I might call a "superficial" individual), engages in activities that he would have problems renouncing. A healthy individual is married and he spends time with his family. That's an activity: but if you take from that "healthy" person his family, is he going to be ok? Not at all. He might even kill himself, that "healthy" individual. So was he not addicted to his family?
Also, isn't it healthy to brush my teeth? Sure, nothing could be healthier, right? If you do not allow me to brush my teeth before going to bed, it's going to bother me. If you do not allow me to brush my teeth for a few days... it's going to drive me crazy. But then am I not addicted to brushing my teeth? What about taking a shower? I think I am realizing that I, and even the so-called "healthy" individuals, are addicted to almost every activity we do during our day.
Maybe the difference is in the percentage of things we do that we are also addicted to. The difference is in that "almost". Maybe everything I do is part of an addiction, whereas the
healthy individuals can leave more to chance.
For example, I walk home, and I always have to walk on the same streets, and on the same side of the street. I have my optimal itinerary home. Maybe the
healthy individual does not.
Everything in my life is optimized and I am addicted to my optimizations. Maybe the healthy individual can even forget to brush his teeth a few times, or can even walk through a less secure itinerary home, and he may even allow himself to take more chances and get run over by a car.
I have a secure optimized life, but my addictions may do more damage than good to me. My trading addiction empties my account, while the healthy individual didn't get rid of his friends to preserve his account, and now he doesn't have a trading addiction...
... skipping a few logical steps... but the point is that maybe the
healthy individual maximizes his happiness better than me.
But I am not a
healthy individual, and so let's try to keep the good sides together with the bad ones from my obsessive optimization habits (brushing your teeth is also good, walking a safe itinerary is also a good thing, etc.), and let's try to get rid of the major negative consequences.
Getting back to my prospective activities.
Forget watching tv because it's not addictive enough and it won't replace trading, because what's on tv is not good enough.
Forget walking, because unless my dad's home, it's not a good enough activity, just like watching tv, and on top of it, it's dangerous and unpleasant.
So, after getting rid of what will probably not work - and here you see my tendency to optimize and focus excessively at work - what I am left with is:
1) reading
2) writing
3) watching movies
I'll talk about this in my next post. The summary of this post is: I will use reading, writing and watching movies to cure my trading addiction.