Sang Froid
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"the only thing that isn't automated is my entry"
Yeah, correct. But that's a whole lot. It's totally important that your entry is not automated. Because yes impatience and lack of self-control (and the other things we mentioned) affect your exit, but they also affect your entry.
"where we differ I believe is that I have a the utmost conviction and faith in my own abilites and truly believe in myself"
Hey, you almost make it sound as if I were a spineless lazy bum... which is not the case. I've got almost everything under control, I worked my ass off as far as automated trading, and the only thing I cannot handle is discretionary trading. Yes, I have a whole 12 years of non-stop losses in discretionary trading, which shows something is indeed wrong in my mind and I am the first one to admit that. But that doesn't mean my life is out of control: in fact I am quite a control freak. For example, I don't smoke, don't drink, I am not overweight, and precisely because I make sure I don't buy cigarettes/beer/sweets. By the way, no offense but how can you say you have faith in what you'll be able to do with discretionary trading if you've just started smoking again (because of a lack in self-control)?
I am done with interrogating you. I just can relate so much to this "trading addiction" problem that I couldn't keep myself from talking about my experience. Ok, you've had 3 years of losses, and I've had 12 years of losses and therefore we're not showing the same symptoms as far having a gambling addiction. I am definitely sick and you're still within "healthy" unprofitable trading. However, I was like you 9 years ago (a "healthy" unprofitable trader who thought he was only trying to learn how to trade and not that he was losing because of a gambling addiction), so... you're warned. You could end up like me and waste another 9 years. So my advice is to start automated trading as soon as possible, first because it will stop your discretionary losses, and second because it will take years of work.
Other than this, thanks for your advice and precious feedback (from a fellow compulsive gambler).
I think there is a difference between a lack of self control and compulsive gambling. Yes I've started smoking again, do I really want to quit, I'm not sure, I do kind of enjoy it, especially with a beer, I know the health risks and I know I should stop, but do I really really want to?
Do I really really want to stop overtrading my account and stop taking punts when the market moves? HELL YES!!
A compulsive gambler no matter how hard he tries will always take long shots, usually against the odds. Win lose or draw a compulsive gambler gets a buzz off the trade, he needs to make a trade to satisfy that urge. Yes I'll be the first to admit I've struggled to cope with that buzz, but I'm so sure that was due to beginners exuberance. I've gambled in the past, mainly due to inexperience, my trades came off as gambles because I had no MM plan, I used to get an 'itchy mouse finger' and hit the buy button when I felt an urge then immediately think "what the f**k have I just done that for"? But in being able to recognise this means that I can change trait.
It's not impossible to limit myself to say a maximum of two trades per day, in fact compared to giving up smoking, only two trades a day is a stroll in the park on a summers day. As long as my RR and MM is sound I've got no problems.
I will be honest with you here, as I'm reading this I get the feeling that these are things that I'm trying desperately to convince myself are true. Only time will tell if I can overcome these flaws in my trading, it's not easy trying to change what is essentially your inherent personality.