and more:
The effort involved in keeping your defenses up can also keep you from
concentrating. Fearing failure, you may focus too much attention on results.
Fear of failure will increase the chance of error by setting in motion
a self-fulfilling prophecy where your expectation of failure leads to
failure. This occurs either by reinforcing an inclination to quit before
reaching your objective or by leading you to interpret cues as indicative
of failure so that you grow tense. A concern with failure also may occur
if the challenge you have set for yourself exceeds your capabilities.
Since dropping your defenses about failure can trigger considerable
anxiety, you need to learn how to do this while remaining centered. You
can do this by accepting your own anxiety and not trying to cover it up.
In learning to flow with feelings, you can differentiate anxiety and negative
feelings from your basic self.
Admitting to fear is often an effective tool for reducing it. Reducing
the effort expended to hide fear effectively eliminates it. By concentrating
on how specific feelings feel, how long they last, and what thoughts
are associated with them, and taking responsibility for them, you can
dissipate the fear and anxiety that come from trying to suppress feelings.
Concentration, even on those things that cause fear, has a strong
effect on reducing ambivalence, indecision, and weakened efforts. It
can be a great stress buster.
The effort involved in keeping your defenses up can also keep you from
concentrating. Fearing failure, you may focus too much attention on results.
Fear of failure will increase the chance of error by setting in motion
a self-fulfilling prophecy where your expectation of failure leads to
failure. This occurs either by reinforcing an inclination to quit before
reaching your objective or by leading you to interpret cues as indicative
of failure so that you grow tense. A concern with failure also may occur
if the challenge you have set for yourself exceeds your capabilities.
Since dropping your defenses about failure can trigger considerable
anxiety, you need to learn how to do this while remaining centered. You
can do this by accepting your own anxiety and not trying to cover it up.
In learning to flow with feelings, you can differentiate anxiety and negative
feelings from your basic self.
Admitting to fear is often an effective tool for reducing it. Reducing
the effort expended to hide fear effectively eliminates it. By concentrating
on how specific feelings feel, how long they last, and what thoughts
are associated with them, and taking responsibility for them, you can
dissipate the fear and anxiety that come from trying to suppress feelings.
Concentration, even on those things that cause fear, has a strong
effect on reducing ambivalence, indecision, and weakened efforts. It
can be a great stress buster.
