1lotwonder said:
beliefs we hold are to me the obvious reason for both losses and arguments - which could be stating the obvious - but there we are
some folks simply refuse to believe the truth. they prefer to walk the easy path and believe everything they hear and read and refuse to stop and think for themselves. although because they may be (trying to) think - they believe they are thinking for themselves.
these are the same people who let their losses run out of control as they refuse to believe they are wrong. the truth would hurt them too much - so in a sense, losing becomes less painful because to alter their beliefs would cause even more pain in the long run.
their beliefs in a quick buck and easy money (especially if its tax free!) lure them to trading like bees to honey.
when a novel and original idea comes to light, these folks will disagree and start an argument as it goes against the grain of what they have 'learnt' in the material pumped out by the media/brokerage reports on the web etc. again, to keep an open mind and the trouble to investigate an idea would be too much pain for them. it is easier to bore everyone to death with their repeated claims and statements they ripped out of that glossy book. this then infuriates us (especially me!) even more - but then i realise i need the ignorant to make my livelihood possible.
in other words, for these folks ignorance is bliss.
however, although must would agree that trading style is individual, most arguments seem to centre around the losers false claims of success (real winners dont talk about it - they just do it) or understanding of 'facts' rather than ways to actually make money. in fact - how to make money probably has never been discussed - because most here simply dont know. im not talking about someones latest magic cross over system here. those that do know are not going to share it with the ignorant and stupid are they! so a big argument erupts with both sides often knowing little about what they are talking about.
i now let it wash over me and i really see this site as a place of amusement when times are quiet rather than a place where serious discussion takes place.
You are absolutely right in everything you say in the post above.
Last year I exerted a lot of effort and spent a lot of time in attempting to bring a general audience to understand that to try to tackle all of this via belief structures does not work, simply because the way the market is constructed does not give licence to participants to bask in the comfort of the belief structures they dearly hold, and succeed in this as well.
As this is an abstrct concept, it is very difficult to describe but easy to understand and accept once you dare to experience it. I tried in many ways to put the message across, using logic, reason, common sense, humour, allegories, and all sorts of examples.
The thread had more than 100, 000 hits.
The problem is a deep rooted reluctance to let go of what is comfortable in exchange for what is uncomfortable and unfamiliar. I accept this. But in order to progress, and to ultimately succeed, a belief structure has to be exchanged for a reality structure.
This means that the individual has to change the way he thinks, and ultimately the way he is, but only for doing this. The best way I can describe this is by creating a trading persona, separate and different to the one we use in daily life.
As a result of the responses from a minority of disrupters and obstinate individuals, I ran out of patience and gave up, to turn my attention on my trading.
An extension of this is what you mention in your last paragraph. You quite rightly say that the incentive to share powerful effective knowledge is snuffed by the antics of the disrespectful and pointedly rude and aggressive.
This is very much like the myth or legend that surrounds psychological counselling for traders.
It is only traders who have problems who need to seek help. Therefore all that is heard about is how some traders have problems and seek the help of psychologists.
The psychologists in turn only have problem riddled traders as patients / clients.
Therefore the frame of reference on both sides is one of failure and / or problems.
Traders without problems do not have a need to consult psychologists. Therefore psychologists never get to hear what it is like to be successful. Therefore their frame of reference remains biased.
These boards render the same result, for this reason I wholheartedly agree with what you say, with particular emphasis on the last 3 lines of your last main paragraph, above.