First thing for you guys is to stop trading with real money and practice for a while. You've got a stategy to put together 'thats suits you/your personality'.
You've got to work in your comfort zone... don't try to follow other people if you are not happy. Assuming you are daytrading, you have to decide what timespan you are happy with. Some people like 1 min charts, others 5 min, 10, 15, 30 etc etc. (You've got to decide if you like daytrading or swing trading, or longer term trading)
You've got to put a system together that suits you. There are countless technical indicators and combinations of indicators. If there was a magic system, it would have been discovered already. There isn't, so you have to find a system that you like, and wins more times than it loses.
You have to learn discipline. This is the single most important attribute a trader needs, imo. You have to be able to say.. no, its not right, I will not trade, or I'm wrong, I need to exit, and act.
You need to use money management. Sometimes, the wonders of compounding will earn you more money than a big move on the Dow.
I started daytrading a year ago. I was lucky to be advised by a very clever man, someone a lot on this board know. I've tried UK stock, US stocks, the Dow, scanning a list of US stocks, trading a single US stock, and have finally settled on the Dax Futures.
What I'm trying to say is that its a learning process. You don't become a doctor in 2 weeks, why expect it from this profession. Its a cruel business, but you must realise we are not creating wealth, the winners are taking money from less able people. Its simply about more able people taking money from less able people. Its up to you to decide where you fit into that picture.