Starting to get there after 3,5 years full time, paper on indices, bund, forex.
It just takes time,patience, discipline, dedication. Lost 15-20K initially trading small size, and consumed more, living off bank accounts.
Yes 80% is psychology, i just do not believe people who deny that , really trade for a living.
Only 20% is system/tools related. I have found that i can transplant my system to any market, index, forex. That's not the point, following it with discipline has taken me a couple of years, and I know that is the real edge (as well as being able to sit behind the screen 8-10 hours a day to take the 8-15 trades (for euro dollar that is).
I also found discrepancies between paper and real life. It has all to do with micromanaging the trades when real money is on the table- thus moving stops too soon, and taking profits too early. And I tell you, that will never change!
Taking a trade and leaving the machine--not for me, i just plainly cannot.
An eyeopener for me has been the akward conclusion form 3000+ life and paper trades that my life shorts where always better, reward wise that is, than my life longs, EVEN WHEN THE SHORTS WHERE PREDOMINANTLY TAKEN AGAINST THE LONGER DAILY TREND......reason: declines tend to be faster and steeper then rising prices, thus preventing me micromanaging my trade.....and i know everybody will say don't do it, and i know i can't even after all these years and 3000+ trades.
I also noticed that sizing up positions according my pos sizing algo made me nervous at a certain point...and it still does. I just do NOT believe people saying their heart rate does not go up putting on a trade, it just does, it has to!
That's the way i am and i will live with this.
(system is taking trades from 25tick graph, fading low volume in Market profile, taking moves out of the point of control, taking oscillator divergences against support and resistance, and riding resulting short trends as visualised by 500tick heikin ashi)
stay focused and accept that paper will always be better than real....always.
TR