You are wrong about not caring if an individual trade is a winner or loser because caring about doing the right thing at every opportunity means s/he cares a great deal about individual trades.
Hi new_trader
I agree with what you say here but I think I haven't explained myself well enough. What I'm talking about regarding winning and losing is this:
When you put on a trade, you can't know with any certainty that it will go the right direction for you. However, you make a choice which is consistent with the experience and the method that you use.
Let's say you are anticipating a price break: You gain an exceptionally good short position from the entry which gives you the confidence to keep your risk tight. As soon as you enter, the trade goes your way - it breaks the price you thought it would but not enough to gain momentum and push on. Consequently, the price bounces and you are stopped out.
Was it a bad trade? I don't think so and here's why:
The price had as much of a chance to break as it did bounce (50:50 - I know you can't quantify these things but for the purpose of my arguement I have to make some assumptions). If you had been right you would have run the trade for all it was worth. If you were wrong you would lose 5 ticks. So, if a similar opportunity comes up again and again, assuming you trade it the same way every time, you should make money in the long run. Therefore, my point is that just because the price bounced rather than broke had nothing to do with your analysis, it was to do with chance.
I agree entirely with your point about questioning whether the trade was a good one or not through asking:
Did I get good position on the entry and was it consistent with my methods?
Was my stop too tight/loose or just right in the case of losing?
Did I leave money on the table in the case of winning?
If the answer to these questions is positive, then the concept of either winning the trade or losing it was down to chance, not the trader - they did everything they could.
Take a 80:20 situation (once again, I know you can't easily quantify these), 20 of the same/similar trades out of 100 are going to be losers. So the right thing to do is lose on 20 of these trades (such is the counterintuitive nature of trading) because if you chop and change your method and go the other way, you'll end up being wrong most of the time.
So, my point was, you should care about doing the right thing, relative to the three questions I posted above. If you did do the right thing, you shouldn't care whether you won or lost on an individual trade. This is a game of uncertainty and,consequently, there is a lot of chance involved. As barjon said, 'it's about maximising advantage and minimising disadvantage' - I'd like to put it another way, it's about getting the most from your trade when you are lucky (right) and getting out quick when you realise you are unlucky (wrong). That is doing the right thing which is completely different from being right.