Trading psychology directives abound but, understandably, drilling down into psychological fundamentals is beyond the scope of said directives.
Shooting with the most technological advance weapon is less likely to produce the desired results if the scope or sights are not zeroed or accurately calibrated.
Even if grouping is consistent, the target kill is not achieved.
For consideration - likewise, re trading, the life scope and sights can be off.
Transactional Analysis - Games
- Games are “sets of ulterior transactions, repetitive in nature, with a well-defined psychological payoff.”
- These repetitive, devious transactions are principally intended to obtain strokes*, but instead they reinforce negative feelings and self-concepts, and mask the direct expression of thoughts and emotions.
*strokes (psychological): In Transactional Analysis (TA), a stroke is defined as the fundamental unit of social recognition. It's the basic unit of acknowledgment, where one person recognizes another through verbal or non-verbal communication.
Life Games (Game categories and game lists are incomplete)
- Kick Me
- Now I've Got You, You Son Of A Bitch
- See What You Made Me Do
It is propositioned that trading disposition can be contaminated and dramatized with games
Cutting to the chase - trading/investing results are going to be sub par with repetitive life scripts** of payoffs of 'Kick Me' (I'm always careless and fuck up, so don't kick me - kick me), 'Now I've Got You, You Son Of A Bitch' (have you directed fuming unwarranted blamed on the market or broker for your poor trading ? If so, its a case of - now I've got you, you son of a bitch), 'See What You Made Me Do' (was doing own due diligence, but got sucked in by YouTube zillionaire trader - see what you (they) made me do), etc.
** think movie scripts where each plays part according to their script - note: real life games recruit additional players to the script - the player who wisely backs out is looked upon unfavorably
Marital Games
- Corner
- Courtroom
- Frigid Woman
- If It Weren't For You
- Look How Hard I've Tried
- Sweetheart
Party Games
- Ain't It Awful
- Why don't you - Yes But
Sexual Games
- Let's you and him fight
- Perversion
- Rapo
- The Stocking Game
- Uproar (let's avoid intimacy, let's have a fight and sulk alone ... later we can play 'beat me daddy' and revenge fuck [ trading contamination: reckless trading move - uproar - disengage the market in stunned isolation - re-engage, revenge fuck the market ])
Underworld Games
- Cops and Robbers (contamination: nice one to play with the markets - guess who's going to financial prison ?)
- How Do You Get Out of Here ( trading contamination: How do I get out of this trade !)
- Lets's Pull A fast One on Joey
Etc., etc.
Transactional Analysis in Depth
For consideration - besides above
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Game Examples ***
1. Game - NOW I'VE GOT YOU, YOU SON OF A BITCH
Thesis. This can be seen in classic form in poker games. White gets an unbeatable hand, such as four aces. At this point, if he is a NIGYSOB player, he is more interested in the fact that Black is completely at his mercy than he is in good poker or making money.
White needed some plumbing fixtures installed, and he reviewed the costs very carefully with the plumber before giving him a go-ahead. The price was set, and it was agreed that there would be no extras. When the plumber submitted his bill, he included a few dollars extra for an unexpected valve that had to be installed—about four dollars on a four-hundred-dollar job. White became infuriated, called the plumber on the phone and demanded an explanation. The plumber would not back down. White wrote him a long letter criticizing his integrity and ethics and refused to pay the bill until the extra charge was withdrawn. The plumber finally gave in.
It soon became obvious that both White and the plumber were playing games. In the course of their negotiations, they had recognized each other's potentials. The plumber made his provocative move when he submitted this bill. Since White had the plumber's word, the plumber was clearly in the wrong. White now felt justified in venting almost unlimited rage against Him. Instead of merely negotiating in a dignified way that befit the Adult standards he set for himself, perhaps with a little innocent annoyance, White took the opportunity to make extensive criticisms of the plumber's whole way of living. On the surface their argument was Adult to Adult, a legitimate business dispute over a stated sum of money. At the psychological level it was Parent to Adult: White was exploiting his trivial but socially defensible objection (position) to vent the pent-up furies of many years on his cozening opponent, just as his mother might have done in a similar situation. He quickly recognized his underlying attitude (NIGYSOB) and realized how secretly delighted he had been at the plumber's provocation. He then recalled that ever since early childhood he had looked for similar injustices, received them with delight and exploited them with the same vigor. In many of the cases he recounted, he had forgotten the actual provocation, but remembered in great detail the course of the ensuing battle. The plumber, apparently, was playing some variation of "Why Does This Always Happen to Me?" (WAHM).
NIGYSOB is a two-handed game which must be distinguished from "Ain't It Awful?" (AIA). In AIA the agent seeks injustices in order to complain about them to a third party, making a three handed game: Aggressor, Victim, Confidant. AIA is played under the slogan "Misery Loves Company." The confidant is usually someone who also plays AIA. WAHM is three-handed, too, but here the agent is trying to establish his pre-eminence in misfortune and resents competition from other unfortunates. NIGYSOB is commercialized in a three-handed professional form as the "badger game." It may also be played as a two-handed marital game in more or less subtle forms.
Antithesis. The best antithesis is correct behavior. The contractual structure of a relationship with a NIGYSOB player should be explicitly stated in detail at the first opportunity, and the rules strictly adhered to. In clinical practice, for example, the question of payment for missed appointments or cancellations must be settled clearly at once, and extra precautions must be taken to avoid mistakes in bookkeeping. If an unforeseen contretemps arises, the antithesis is to yield gracefully without dispute, until such time as the therapist is prepared to deal with the game. In everyday life, business dealings with NIGYSOB players are always calculated risks. The wife of such a person should be treated with polite correctness, and even the mildest flirtations, gallantries or slights should be avoided, especially if the husband himself seems to encourage them.
2. Game - RAPO
Thesis. This is a game played between a man and a woman which might more politely be called, in
the milder forms at least, "Kiss Off" or "Indignation." It may be played with varying degrees of
intensity.
1. First-Degree "Rapo," or "Kiss Off," is popular at social gatherings and consists essentially of
mild flirtation. White signals that she is available and gets her pleasure from the man's pursuit. As
soon as he has committed himself, the game is over. If she is polite, she may say quite frankly "I
appreciate your compliments and thank you very much," and move on to the next conquest. If she
is less generous, she may simply leave him. A skillful player can make this game last for a long
time at a large social gathering by moving around frequently, so that the man has to carry out
complicated maneuvers in order to follow her without being too obvious.
2. In Second-Degree "Rapo," or "Indignation," White gets only secondary satisfaction from Black's
advances. Her primary gratification comes from rejecting him, so that this game is also colloquially
known as "Buzz Off, Buster." She leads Black into a much more serious commitment than the mild
flirtation of First-Degree "Rapo" and enjoys watching his discomfiture when she repulses him.
Black, of course, is not as helpless as he seems, and may have gone to considerable trouble to get
himself involved. Usually he is playing some variation of "Kick Me."
3. Third-Degree "Rapo" is a vicious game which ends in murder, suicide or the courtroom. Here
White leads Black into compromising physical contact and then claims that he has made a criminal
assault or has done her irreparable damage. In its most cynical form White may actually allow him
to complete the sexual act so that she gets that enjoyment before confronting him. The
confrontation may be immediate, as in the illegitimate cry of rape, or it may be long delayed, as in
suicide or homicide following a prolonged love affair. If she chooses to play it as a criminal assault,
she may have no difficulty in finding mercenary or morbidly interested allies, such as the press, the
police, counselors and relatives. Sometimes, however, these outsiders may cynically turn on her, so
that she loses the initiative and becomes a tool in their games.
In some cases outsiders perform a different function.
They force the game on an unwilling White because they want to play "Let's You and Him Fight."
They put her in such a position that in order to save her face or her reputation she has to cry rape.
This is particularly apt to happen with girls under the legal age of consent; they may be quite
willing to continue a liaison, but because it is discovered or made an issue of, they feel constrained
to turn the romance into a game of Third-Degree "Rapo."
In one well-known situation, the wary Joseph refused to be inveigled into a game of "Rapo,"
whereupon Potiphar's wife made the classical switch into "Let's You and Him Fight," an excellent
example of the way a hard player reacts to antithesis, and of the dangers that beset people who
refuse to play games, These two games are combined in the well-known "Badger Game," in which
the woman seduces Black and then cries rape, at which point her husband takes charge and abuses
Black for purposes of blackmail.
The childhood prototype of "Rapo" is the same as that of "Frigid Woman," in which the little girl
induces the boy to humiliate himself or get dirty and then sneers at him, as classically described by
Maugham in Of Hitman Bondage and, as already noted, by Dickens in Great Expectations. This is
Second Degree. A harder form, approaching Third Degree, may be played in tough neighborhoods.
Antithesis. The man's ability to avoid becoming involved in this game or to keep it under control
depends on his capacity to distinguish genuine expressions of feeling from moves in the game. If he
is thus able to exert social control, he may obtain a great deal of pleasure from the mild flirtations
of "Kiss Off." On the other hand it is difficult to conceive of a safe antithesis for the Potiphar's
Wife maneuver, other than checking out before closing time with no forwarding address. In 1938
the writer met an aging Joseph in Aleppo who had checked out of Constantinople thirty-two years
previously, after one of the Sultan's ladies had cornered him during a business visit to the Yildiz
harem. He had to abandon his shop, but took time to pick up his hoard of gold francs, and had
never returned.
Relatives. The male versions of "Rapo" are notoriously found in commercial situations: "Casting
Couch" (and then she didn't get the part) and "Cuddle Up" (and then she got fired).
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